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Monthly Must-Haves | 3-6 Months

If you’re reading this post, that means your little one is now approaching or in the 3-6 month phase. Or, you are just wildly obsessed with baby things OR maybe it’s just that you actually enjoy reading my blog no matter what the topic. Anyway, this post will capture the top six items I found to be crucial when having Lincoln during the 3-6 month period. I still don’t know why they put together months like that, in huge chunks, because there is such a drastic difference between a three month old and a six month old – but it is what it is. Here we go…

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  1. Johnson + Johnson Hand and Face Wipes – I LOVE these little guys and buy them in bulk! They come in handy with literally anything baby related. They are good for getting boogers, snot, wiping hands and face off, and even can be used as a back up diaper wipe if you run out. They are cheap and absolutely essential.
  2. Baby Einstein Neighborhood Symphony Activity Jumper – My mom bought this for Lincoln when he was three months old. It was PERFECT to have at that time. It comes with a bunch of activities that you can swap in and out, tethers, and a swivel seat for them to rotate (once they figure that out as they get older). It bounces and changes height position four times! Lincoln absolutely loved it and it gave me comfort to know he was safe as I quickly showered.. or did whatever I needed to do.
  3. Chicco Stack 3 in 1 Highchair – This highchair was a gift from a students parents that I had. It wasn’t the one I originally had on my registry – it’s BETTER. This highchair is trendy, cute, and transforms in multiple ways! The back of the seat reclines into several positions and the tray has several clip in positions as well. It comes with a clear tray over the regular tray for easy dishwashing or cleaning. The fabric is easy to wipe down and food/drinks wipe off super nicely! The highchair eventually transforms into a booster seat and you can also detach the highchair portion from its base and strap it onto a regular chair. My only complaint – it is a bit bulky and doesn’t fold up – but other than that we love it!
  4. Ergo 360 Baby Carrier with Infant Insert – This baby carrier was a lifesaver! I had two carriers, a wrap and the Ergo. I could not for the life of me, even with the direction pamphlet and youtube tutorials, figure out how to wear the wrap! It just wasn’t for me and Lincoln looked so uncomfortable in it. I am hoping to master the wrap with our next baby, but the Ergo was all around amazing. Darius LOVED wearing it and actually wore it way more than I did. What’s great about it is that it grows with baby! The infant insert is essential when you have a newborn because it helps prop them up and give them the necessary support. We have ours in the grey color and love it! Only complaint – it’s a bit pricey, and a little difficult to put on (you get used to it) but overall worth it.
  5. Babyganics Shampoo and Body Wash – I posted before about using Babyganics products and we love their stuff so much! I love that harsh chemicals are not used and everything is safe and gentle for baby. We use their shampoo and body wash and found it to be awesome! We love that it has the nice foaming pump and doesn’t burn his eyes when some gets on his face. Also, the best part, is that it doesn’t leave soapy water behind! This equals a nice, quick rinse off for baby! I do wish it had a stronger “baby” smell.
  6. Munchkin Fresh Food Feeder – My girlfriend from work got me these and they weren’t even on my registry. I had never even thought about a teething baby. But thank God she knew what she was doing. This is the only type of teether to ever calm down Lincoln. The mesh is safe and gentle for baby to chew on. The latch is baby proof, so there is no way baby is opening the feeder to get to the food. I usually stuff a frozen piece of fruit in there, like a peach, hand it to him and he sucks on it till it’s gone! I also love that it’s practically mess free and doesn’t leave your house sticky! Also, it’s dishwasher safe! WIN!

Looking for must-haves for previous ages? Check out my previous posts…

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Lincoln at 10 Months

I remember when I first started a blog, I wanted to do it as a sort of online diary for Lincoln. So, one day when he’s older he can see how his mom documented the pregnancy, and the first year month by month. And, let’s be honest here, I epically failed at that. During the pregnancy, going through sixteen weeks of sickness made me put my blog completely on the back burner. Once having Lincoln, taking the roller coaster of postpartum depression, having a newborn, and then heading back to work caused the same thing to happen – my blog just wasn’t a priority. But now that it’s summer, that I’ve become a SAHM, my blog is a huge priority in my life once again! And I am thrilled about that.

With all that being said, let’s dive into what Lincoln was like at 10 months.

I think I remember saying somewhere around him turning six months that it was my favorite age. Well, it just keeps getting better. Lincoln is crawling FAST all over the place, he cruises on furniture, and plays so well independently. His favorite toys are balls and he throws them all over the house and chases after them.

He is eating like a grown man already – his favorites include chicken nuggets, yogurt, cheese (he IS MY child), raspberries, strawberries and banana. We offer him tons of other options, basically everything we eat. He had his first introduction with a donut and dives face first into my soft serve when we go out to get it.

Lincoln says “uh oh” “mama” “dada” and I keep trying to teach him to be gentle so he will mimic the word gentle, and I can tell he’s trying to say it, but he really only gets the final sound.

Next Saturday, Lincoln will be 11 months old and I CANNOT believe it. Where did my baby go? Time really does fly. Darius is already considering asking Lincoln to start paying rent soon. Kids these days, solely reliable on their parents.

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To the Perfect Mom

If you have been reading my blog(s) for a while now, you know I always aim to be honest. Even if that means not appealing to all the different groups out there. Well, today is another one of those posts.

More often then not as I scroll through social media, I see the mom shaming and the mom bashing. I see the hashtags, the photos of your little one, the photos of you being perfect. I see the Facebook groups you are a part of, the posts that you share and the comments you make. I see it all.

Now let me just say this, although I have used my blog to express a lot of truth about my rocky journey into motherhood, I also hold a lot back. Why? Because I feel shame. I feel shame because of those moms.

The ones with their very, very clear expressions about how their child should sleep – co-sleeping, bed sharing, anti-cry-it-out. The ones faithful to the boob – the exclusively breastfeeding, the “I don’t care when my child weans”, the “baby led weaning”. The ones who don’t need a wink of sleep but complain about their exhaustion. The ones who are against store bought purees, against non-organic options. #ebf #breastfeeding #anticio #babyledweaning #noformulahere #nastypurees #illsleepwhenimdead

I could go on and on. Let me say this – I HEAR YOU. WE hear you! WE – the ones who don’t meet your expectations as a mother yet we don’t have expectations for you. The ones who had a very painful, rough start to motherhood, who didn’t feel adequate from just hours after our baby’s birth. The ones who hated pumping at work and looked forward to the day that their baby was weaned. We are the ones who had to use formula and breastmilk because breastfeeding wasn’t working out as society had made it to be. We are the ones who don’t have time for, or maybe just aren’t interested in making homemade baby food. We buy Gerber’s purees and on a good day, I buy the organic kind. We are the ones who can’t always afford organic so we settle for the generic version. The ones who go through CIO here and there, maybe consistently, maybe not, because sleep helps us be better mothers. We. Hear. You.

In fact, on Thursday Lincoln had a donut for lunch. A donut. And Monday at baby story time at the library, he threw his first actual meltdown. He screamed and cried the entire time. I knew he was tired because he missed his morning nap but we were there at the library so we were going to make it through that session. And when I got home, I gave him a nice warm bottle of FORMULA and laid him in his crib. In his crib, he cried for a bit and I WALKED AWAY. I had to. I needed a break. He had been on a crazy episode for well over an hour. I have a right to walk away. And ten minutes later, I went back in and rocked him and he fell right asleep. Guess what? When he woke up, he was happy to see me. And my pediatrician reassured me that his brain isn’t in stress or feeling neglected because he has to cry by himself sometimes. He told me this because I told him about all the crazy articles you share. I’m not neglecting my child.

So please, stop with the hashtags, the article sharing and the hurtful comments that indicate you are a much better mother than the rest of us. Because at the end of it all, one day your child will be eating leftover French fries off the floor of the car, or licking mud, or eating Domino’s pizza from a friends house. And our kids will be in the same classes and they won’t be discussing the time their mom let them cry at 10 months old or how their mom is better because she never, ever let their mouth touch a puree pouch. No. They’ll be talking about the latest TV show, movie, sports, toy, or maybe classroom drama.

In the end, after these couple of baby years are over, none of this stuff really matters. We are all equal. And all I have ever cared about all along, from day one, is that my baby (and yours) is happy, well fed and has parents that love him dearly.

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Being a SAHM

This is one of those posts that I have been a little hesitant to write only because I feel like there are so many mixed feelings,  misconceptions and stigmas associated with being a stay at home mom. Let me start by mentioning that being a stay at home mom has always been something that I have wanted to do and have seen myself doing. I absolutely love teaching, but I also really love my child. Once Lincoln was born, I knew that my time with teaching was coming to an end.

I do not find myself to be a lazy person or someone who does not want to work. In fact, raising Lincoln, being home with him and taking care of my family is one of the hardest jobs I’ve ever had – but also, by far, the most rewarding. The topic of me leaving teaching began way before Darius and I had a baby. His mother was a SAHM for most of his life and he really enjoyed having her around and looking back, he really appreciates all she did. When I mentioned wanting to leave work one day, he was ecstatic about it. So, trying to convince my husband one way or another wasn’t something I had to do. In fact, Darius was pushing me to quit my job. Right before giving birth to Lincoln, Darius was promoted to Tech Sergeant which is quite a nice pay raise. It was then that everything just fell into place. We were going to make it work. We knew it would be tight and we also knew it would not be easy, but this is what was best for our child and our family.

It hurts my soul when I hear the jokes and comments made about women who chose to stay at home with their babes. What do they do all day? They must get to sleep in. How lazy are they. Maybe they just don’t want to work? The house BETTER be cleaned and dinner BETTER be made. It’s two steps back for women. Luckily- none of these have come my way yet, but I’ve heard them before, even from those who knew this was the direction I wanted to choose. So, let me go ahead and clear up some things –

What do I do all day? In my short amount of time being home with Lincoln full-time, I am the least bored I have ever been. My day is 24/7 but really it starts about 6am when he wakes up. We go downstairs and play for an hour before breakfast. I make him breakfast, unload the dishwasher, feed him, pack lunch for Darius (because it saves us money). I make myself and Darius breakfast, clean up breakfast while Lincoln watches Bubble Guppies, get Lincoln dressed for the day and then we play some more. We practice walking, talking and following commands. By 9am, it’s time for his first nap. Sometimes I nap too (usually when he was up a lot the night before) and that’s okay with me. Other times, I do a chore like fold the laundry, vacuum, whatever. I will even try to do an in home workout. By 10:30-11 he’s up and we head off to the library, run errands, go to the commissary or whatever I need to do so it won’t be done on the weekends during our family time. By 1:00 to 2:00 it’s time for nap #2. During this time I either work on other chores or I take some time for myself and just watch TV and hang out. The afternoon nap is much shorter so I take what I can get. Once he’s up, we will either go exploring some more, maybe a play date or some time in the pool. Darius is usually home by 5 and I start preparing dinner around 4:30. After dinner, Darius cleans up (holy crap yes Darius helps!), we get Lincoln a bath and Lincoln is in bed by 6:30. I load the dishwasher, run it, and Darius and I get to hang out until around 10 when I go to bed. It’s a long day and not all days are easy or even the same. Sometimes I don’t get anything done and sometimes naps are skipped or things come up.

Do I want to work? Of course I do! Leaving work was one of the hardest decisions I have ever made in my entire life. But you know what, Lincoln is only this little once and in the blink of an eye he will be in pre-school, so I am soaking it up while I can. I am also looking for part-time work to help bring in some cash for my family.

I bet the house is always clean and food is always cooked. LOL. My house may appear to be cleaned. Yes, after every day the toys are picked up and put away and for the most part I don’t have piles of dust floating around. But, our bedroom is always the last to get attention, I have piles of shit in the guest room looking for a home, we have crumbs on the floor constantly and something in the kitchen is always sticky. So, no. And we do manage to always have food cooked because eating out randomly is no longer an option for us. Everything is budgeted for and because providing leftovers and cooking is cheaper for us, I make sure we use all the food we buy. If we want to eat out one day, it’s already in the budget and planned for.

Being a SAHM is one step back for women. WHATEVER. That all boils down to personal beliefs. I am NOT a feminist and I DO enjoy a “traditional” lifestyle. Again, I have always wanted to be home to raise my kids. It’s easier on me. I was not the best at juggling career and motherhood and family. This is what I wanted. I don’t believe I am causing a step back in women’s rights, I am just doing what I WANT TO DO because that is also my right.

I hope that this was able to clear up my perceptions of being a SAHM and maybe even misconceptions for those out there who believe it’s wildly a day off every day of the year… because it actuality, it’s the exact opposite. If you’re a SAHM, leave a comment below on what made you decide to take the leap!

xoxo!

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Monthly Must-Haves | 0-3 Months

My goal is to get out all of the must-have baby items by age. Some of them aren’t as exciting as others, but I promise that we everything I mention to be a necessity. Included after each item is the link in case you want to shop it for yourself and your little!

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  1. Triple Paste Diaper Rash Ointment – Let’s face it – diaper rash is a pain in the ass (see what I did there?) and your poor little babe will most likely experience this at some point. As a new mom, I figured Desitin was the way to go but I was so wrong. Triple Paste is on the expensive side but it is SO WORTH IT! I am talking diaper rash that clears up in a day, people!
  2. Fisher-Price Rainforest Melodies and Lights Deluxe Gym  – This mat was a lifesaver when it came to Lincoln being immobile. For the first several months he didn’t really do much but I felt bad when I wasn’t holding him. The mat allowed him to interact, play, grasp, grab, swat, pull and play with the little animals and toys that dangle from it. The lights and music can be set to a motion sensor so they only go off when your little babe swats or makes movement. Similar here.
  3. Boon Lawn Countertop Drying Rack (this one is similar) – I know this looks totally ridiculous – and trust me, I thought spending $25 on this sucker was – but I heard it was a necessity and I sure do agree. This drying rack allows for easy placement of ANY bottles or bottle parts. It even comes with cute little accessory pieces (which we have bought) to hang bottle nipples from or whatever! It’s also easy to clean and throw in the dishwasher!
  4. Aveeno Baby Calming Comfort Moisturizing Lotion, Lavender and Vanilla – We actually went through quite a few lotions with Lincoln. Some of them didn’t clear up dry skin at all. Then, he got a little patch of eczema on his chest and our daycare provider at the time recommended Aveeno. We have loved it. It’s soft, gentle and I just love the smell. We apply it all over – including his hair and face – and he’s never bothered!
  5. Fisher-Price 4-in-1 Sling N Seat Tub  – At first you may think this tub is a little much and I went back and forth about what kind of tub to put on my registry. There were so much cute, smaller ones out there, but I knew those wouldn’t last for the long haul. This tub comes with a sling to place baby in as a newborn. Once they can kind of sit up on their own, there’s a seat insert that helps them to sit up. After that, you can remove the seat and they can sit up in the tub all on their own. The baby can even lay back and there is a little soft head rest for them. The tub even comes with a cute little water strainer toy AND a water bottle (with squirt holes in the lid) which is Darius’ favorite!  He loves to use it to squirt water on Lincoln’s back and to help rinse his head off. This tub is AMAZING!
  6. Babyganics Dish Dazzler Foaming Dish and Bottle Soap –   After coming home from work every day and washing two pumping bottles, pumping parts and then two milk bottles and all the parts to those – I was OVER IT. This foaming dish soap by Babyganics definitely doesn’t make the task easier but I really love the soap. It’s gentle on your hands (trust me, I know) and foams up REALLY well. The most awesome part is it doesn’t leave tons of extra bubbles around (I know because we have also used their baby shampoo with Lincoln) so it makes for easy cleaning and clean up! I also appreciate that their products are safe and not filled with dangerous chemicals!

So there it is! A short list of the things I remember so well and remember using again and again. I hope you enjoy! Please feel free to comment below with things you believe are must-haves for your little (or you)!

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Marriage + Motherhood

Ahh.. marriage and motherhood. A post I have been writing off and on for quite some time now. A topic that is tricky to discuss as each couples situation is unique and different. How I feel and have evolved to this new life can be dramatically different than the next. But, here it goes – all my thoughts, feelings and advice on being a newlywed and adjusting to motherhood.

A month into our marriage, Darius and I found out I was pregnant with our rainbow baby, Jordan. When I started going through the miscarriage, I didn’t know it, and my body was going through postpartum depression and crashing hormones. this caused a huge strain on our relationship because dealing with the loss of the baby and not knowing how to handle my feelings, I just was not available. All in all, the challenge brought us together and though it took weeks to realize what was happening, we were able to do our best to make a plan for ‘next time’.

During pregnancy with Lincoln, we were living the dream. We had bought our first home, we were in the middle of fixing everything up, nesting and creating the perfect life for our little man. I was incredibly sick for 16 weeks and although that was f***ing horrible, having Darius as my support system was so meaningful. It wasn’t until after giving birth to Lincoln, the next day precisely, that shit.got.real.

Having a baby and struggling with anxiety and postpartum depression simultaneously really throws a wrench into your love life. Being that I don’t adjust well with change, after bringing Lincoln home I remember two things: 1. Apologizing to Gus for ruining his life and 2.  Texting Liz asking how the hell to get out of this nightmare (of having a baby). I wanted my husband back, my quiet life back and I definitely didn’t want Darius to love Lincoln more than me. Looking back and even in the moment, I knew all of this was irrational. I knew it wasn’t normal. When bringing Lincoln home I envisioned us being madly in love, taking care of our baby in unison and suffering through sleep loss like a champ. In turn, it was absolutely nothing of the sort.

Having a newborn, and now a 9 month old meant a lot of adjustment for our relationship. At first, my hormones weighed heavily on us. I cried all the time. I needed Darius and Lincoln needed me and Darius was taking care of all of us. He had to drop his math class to pick up the slack of me being a hormonal mess. I cried all the time. It was like he was actually taking care of two babies instead of one. Once that passed and I received help, the new adjustment was what would be our new normal? 

There were many times that our conversations were minimal, and dinners consisted of shoving a luke warm dinner down our throats. Many times we didn’t speak about anything significant and neither of us really knew what was going on in the others life. We weren’t making one another or our relationship a priority. That was something that needed to change. A lot of times there were arguments – about who to change Lincoln, who fed him the most, who was the most tired, who works the hardest, who does the most in the house… I could go on and on. And sometimes it felt like this has to be the end, although we both absolutely knew it wasn’t.

Things didn’t get “better” right away. And it really wasn’t even that things had to get better, we just had to adjust to the way life was and accept that’s how it would be. It wasn’t like we had some drawn out, silent treatment or screaming argument. We slowly started have more open conversation. It happened in places like the car, in the kitchen when making dinner, on the phone on the way home from work. We would talk about how we were feeling, how we read an article about our marriage coming first, we would reminisce about how life is now and how it used to be. We made more time for each other and allowed for family to help out in order to give us a break. We began to be okay with not being at Lincoln’s side 24/7. We know that in order to have a happy, healthy family we need a happy, healthy marriage. And we need to nurture that marriage and be supportive of one another.

Nine months postpartum I finally feel like we are in one of the best places we have ever been in our entire marriage. I feel more that we are the best of friends than I did two years ago. I feel I have a partner who truly values me, who respects me as a wife, mother and friend. I have someone who knows me inside and out and who will always have my back.

So, my advice to you out there who has the newborn? Life isn’t over. It’s just beginning. And what you’ve done is beautiful and fantastic. And you may be sore, you may be exhausted, you may be wanting to give up. Those feelings are valid. But, as time always does, it heals all things. You will get back to yourself. You will begin to find a new normal in this crazy, hectic life of mommy hood. But, it is imperative that your marriage is nurtured and that your independence is nurtured. Make time for yourself and one another. Your baby will never forget having happy, committed parents – and will never remember the one time you left him with the grandparents for two hours.

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Lincoln at 9 Months

Lincoln recently (and by recently I mean basically a month ago) turned 9 months! 9 months ago my life changed in an insane way – I became a mommy! The ride has been a long, wild one but my goodness, I wouldn’t change a thing. Seeing Lincoln grow and transform from a newborn to a little baby boy has been incredible.

In turning 9 months, Lincoln started to do the following:

-crawl – like reallyyyyy crawl and reallyyyyy fast – the second he sees the gate open to the kitchen he bolts for it.

-eat people food – he’s finally shown a huge interest in the food we are eating and loves to chow down

-finding his voice – between screaming, shouting, hollering – it’s getting loud around here

-pulling up on furniture – Lincoln went from crawling to pulling up in a matter of days. he is cruising all over and I can’t remember the time when he was immobile.

-big boy bath – he has been evicted from the infant bath and now sits up in the tub like a regular kid *excuse me while I go sob*

-trying to talk – like REALLY trying to talk. he is always making a noise of some sort.

-curiosity – this one has to be one of my favorites. to see his little self explore, pick things up, throw things, chase things, eat things, taste things – it’s just so cute!

To check up on Lincoln’s past monthly updates, check this out!

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Monthly Must-Haves | Newborn

Being a first-time mom, my baby registry was filled with EVERYTHING. I mean, it’s absurd actually how much stuff was on that registry. And granted, a lot of it was put to great use, but there are only a handful of things that I considered a must-have. These items are based off of my personal opinion alone, but, many other moms recommend these items to me as their must-haves as well. So, enjoy!

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  1. Fisher-Price Auto Rock ‘n Play Sleeper – This rock ‘n play was a LIFE SAVER when it came to getting Lincoln to sleep. As a new mom, I figured my baby would love being swaddled and sleep peacefully in his bassinet. WRONG. Lincoln not only hated being swaddled, but his bassinet was so big, he didn’t feel protected. The auto rock ‘n play is the way to go! You can set timers on it, and it plays a variety of music/sleep sounds! He used this sucker for 3 months!
  2. SwaddleMe Slumber Buddies Soother – My mother in law bought this for Lincoln about two months ago and I WISH we had it sooner! This sweet little elephant plays 5 different sounds, has 3 timer options and sets a starry scene on the ceiling with light options of red, blue or green (or it will alternate on its own). It’s much better than a mobile (which we never had) and Lincoln loves staring at the lights on the ceiling!
  3. aden + anais Muslin Swaddle – Lincoln never liked being swaddled, so we didn’t use these sweet blankies as a swaddle. But, they sure did come in handy! Lincoln loved them as a light blankie (he was born in August) and they are super soft and cozy. We also used them to play down on play mats, the rock ‘n play and his swing so in case he were to spit up, we just had to throw the blanket in the washer!
  4. Dr. Brown’s Bottles – From the get-go, Lincoln and I had trouble with breastfeeding. He started on formula as a supplement the day he was born. Thank goodness for Dr. Brown’s bottles! We truly never had an issue with colic or with him being overly gassy. They do have a lot of parts, but we feel they were totally worth it!
  5. Boppy Nursing Pillow + Positioner – This nursing pillow was a lifesaver! We brought it with us to the hospital and it was so nice to have as I adjusted to nursing. I used it constantly once he came home from the hospital to help with feedings, and he enjoyed laying on his side on it tucked against my chest. As he grew older, he would lay down on it and drink a bottle, or lay with his belly on it and do a little tummy time! We just put it away when he turned six months!
  6. Fisher-Price My Little Snugapuppy Cradle ‘n Swing – At first, Lincoln hated this swing. But about a week or two into him being a newborn, it became a backup to our rock ‘n play. He loved swinging in the swing with its side-to-side motion. It plays a variety of songs, the mobile moves and you can set the rocking motion to however fast you want it! He still uses it today – at 9 months and 20 pounds!
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New Beginnings

Hi there! If you’ve stumbled upon this blog of mine by accident, welcome! If you found me through my share, thanks for stopping by!

My name is Rachael! And this blogging thing ain’t my first rodeo! I have a blog that I used to document my first pregnancies. You can read all about that here. Many of my family, friends and colleagues enjoyed reading my previous blog and so, I’ve decided to take it a step further. I have quite a few life changes ahead of me (hear about those in the near future) and I am doing my best to make my blog a full-time gig.

I have always loved writing, thanks to my fourth grade English teacher. I have found it to be a creative outlet, a sort of release, a safe place where I can let it all out there. At first, it was something I found quite nerve wracking, especially putting it on the internet, but when I received so many positive responses, I felt the need to keep it going.

Blogging has been the most challenging for me having to work full-time as an elementary school teacher. Especially now having a 9 month old, 19 students in the classroom, and a husband who can never find his keys, pants, phone, work bag, shoes, the can opener, etc… it always kind of was put on the back burner.

With all that being said – I am so excited to make this more of a commitment! I am dedicated to this and so excited to be on a new journey! Thank you for joining me!